Three Poems About Love For Valentines Day

Love and intimacy have taken on new meaning for me these days. My spouse and I, in many ways, are an improbable, imperfectly perfect match. It’s not the first marriage for either of us. We produced no children together, meeting when our children were teenagers. The Brady Bunch we were not. With time, patience and acceptance, our family is one full of love.

Son, daughters, daughter-in-law, sons-in-law, five grandchildren, dogs and cats. We’ve weathered loss, financial crises, health crises, and times where we grew apart exhausted with life’s ups and downs. Thich Nhat Hanh suggests that “…understanding is love’s other name” — that to love another means to fully understand his or her suffering”. The trust eroded by my untreated dependence upon alcohol, anxiety, depression, now almost thirteen years later, is stronger than before.

I think that part of the give-and-take was our willingness to learn to trust and our willingness to learn to be trustworthy. It took time. But it also took effort and commitment to a possibility with uncertain outcomes. I couldn’t guarantee sobriety; my spouse couldn’t guarantee forgiveness. I’ve stayed sober. She’s forgiven. And here we are twenty-three years later loving each other quietly and deeply another Valentines Day.


I saw you that day in a once-upon-a-time
I see you now with those same eyes
Living life sometimes took its toll
But we paid it with love as best we could
That’s what I think when I remember

What I saw that day in a once-upon-a-time


I know that you wonder
Sometimes you do
Why it is that I love you
I can hear it in your heart
And see it in your mind’s eye
Though you won’t ask
The answer obvious and true
Is quite simply that I do
But you want more
I know that you do
You see I see you
Like I saw you
In our once upon a time
I saw another soul
Wandering and wondering why
And now as we wander and wonder together
I’ve no doubt none at all
It’s as simple as it was
In that first once upon a time
I see you and you see me


Is there anything greater than love
Love that weathers the storm
Sees faults and doesn’t look away
Places no blame at the end of the day 
Ask nothing other than love in return
Wandering spirits seeking refuge
Souls among the lost and found

About the Author

Robert B. is a sober alcoholic in Madison, WI participating in AA and AlAnon at Fitchburg Serenity Club. He has been sober since April 21, 2007. He also began writing and sharing poetry on Facebook during his first year sober as part of his recovery from alcohol dependency, acute anxiety and chronic depression. He has found that creativity expressed primarily through writing poetry and playing various stringed instruments helped him heal and thrive

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