Second Chances

Joe C wrote about ‘second chances’ in recovering our lives in Beyond Belief: Agnostic Musings for 12 Step Life: finally a daily reflections book for nonbelievers, freethinkers and everyone in the November 12 reflection:“… We may feel that we are making up for lost time but we are not; we are making the most out of a second chance…”.

Recently my son and I have been corresponding and talking about some struggles he is experiencing that harkens back to his childhood and associated trauma. Though his current struggle is not with me, I had/have a part. One of the parts that I played then was that I was not there for him during a time he needed me most. This continues to be my biggest regret about a past that I cannot change.

But today, I’m reminded that today, I can listen, that I can be there for him and his family today. For sure listening to him brought up painful memories, old stories. But today, because of amends, direct in the traditional AA sense of expressing my deepest regret, and a commitment to my amends to him and others in my life, to change my attitudes and behaviors, how I react, how I respond, how I listen, I can “… make the most of out of my second chance…” The effects of my second chance have also become generational and familial, affecting my children, their spouses, and my grandchildren. I am so very grateful for my second chance(s).

A Second Chance 
I remember the days and the nights
The weeks the months and the years
Of trying trying trying in vain
‘To reclaim lost time’ from a past
That try as I might I do still regret
There is so much I would change
Oh if only I could I surely would
Ignoring my ‘second chance’
To live a life with kindness love and joy today
With a nod to Joe C an anonymous Canadian friend 🙏

About the Author

Robert B. is a sober alcoholic in Madison, WI participating in AA and AlAnon at Fitchburg Serenity Club. He has been sober since April 21, 2007. He also began writing and sharing poetry on Facebook during his first year sober as part of his recovery from alcohol dependency, acute anxiety, and chronic depression. He has found that creativity expressed primarily through writing poetry and playing various stringed instruments helped him heal and thrive.

Print Friendly, PDF & Email

Share:
1 Comment
Newest
Oldest
Inline Feedbacks
View all comments
Michael
Michael
1 year ago

I find myself regretting behaviors currently in this scary time of Covid. “Did I maintain safe distance?” “Did I wash my hands well enough?” In those dark moments of doubt I easily fall into a angry critical hole. And try as I might I can’t undo the past.
The risk continues, another social interaction will follow and with heightened awareness of the importance of my health and yours I am so thankful for “second chances”.